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Thursday, September 17, 2020

10 Habits That Could Possibly Destroy A Man

10 Habits That Could Possibly Destroy A Man
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Being a man comes with lots of responsibilities and expectations from our family, friends, and society. We are required to be successful, and sometimes carry the whole weight of our families on our shoulders.

Greatness, self-actualization, fame, hard work, innovation, success, confidence, financial-freedom, triumphant, victorious... are basically what every man is chasing throughout the course of his life.

 But along the course of this hard and ruthless journey where only the brave and tenacious make it to the top, some men end up falling in toxic habits that end up destroying them, rather than elevating them.

Have a good look around you, and you'll notice men who are regarded as failures displaying one or more of these toxic habits. It first began with a harmless desire to try out what the neighbor next door is doing.

From a harmless desire, it transformed into addiction and ended up becoming a habit. It takes about 21 days for and individual to develop a habit.

Before we look at the 10 habits that could possibly destroy a man, let's examine the word failure.

How do you define failure?

The average man would define failure as trying without succeeding. Do you think am right? After all, when people fail once they'll never try again and move to something safer right?

Churchill and Edison defined success as;

 “Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.”― Winston S. Churchill 

“I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work.”― Thomas A. Edison

And so failure doesn't come from stumbling once or twice or thrice... and so on but actually giving up on the journey. My definition of failure goes this way "failure is the act of laying down the fight/struggle to success or a goal".

As you go through your own struggle in life, always remember that;

“Failure is the condiment that gives success its flavor.”― Truman Capote

With that being said, let's look at 10 habits that could destroy a man:

1. Chasing Women

Most of you probably didn't think that chasing women is a habit. But what's a habit? A habit refers to a settled or regular tendency or practice, especially one that is hard to give up.

Going to the club every weekend to pick up women is a habit, hanging around recreational areas like parks every day to pick up women is a habit, sitting in bars and restaurants every night to pick up women is a habit.

And sadly, these are habits low-value men display. If you have time to do any of the things mentioned above, then you're certainly not on your purpose and grinding. Because if so, then you know every second counts.

Firstly, chasing women ruins you financially. In one of my previous posts, I talked about how being with the wrong woman can ruin you in every possible way (Click the link to read it: 4 Things That Gets The Average Man Into The Rat Race).

Being with a woman is a Budget, and chasing women is a big liability to you all your life. Chasing women comes with its own expenditures and financial inconveniences to you.

It was discovered in a study that men would spend an average of $6 million on a single woman for a period of 16years.

Imagine if you could just save half of this money and invest it. It would be enough to take you through your retirement.

Secondly, chasing women takes away your purpose from you. If Bill Gates, Warren Buffet, or one of my favorite writers Robert Kiyosaki decided to chase women in their twenties or thirties, do you think they would be where they are today?

Yes, i do write about relationships, but the purpose of the knowledge is not for you to be the king of chasing and conquering women NO!, but to help you make better choices and decisions in your dating life, without it being a toxic substance in your life.

Yes, it's ok to go after what you want, but you must learn to give women the opportunity to decide to come into your life on her own. After all, you are the price because you are capable of changing her life in an instant, therefore behave like a price she needs to earn, and not get for free with the twink of her fingers.

Your focus should be your goals, ambitions, and dreams, and you'll definitely meet high-quality women along your journey that would come your way. Going to the club to meet women all the time will do you no good because the majority of these women are promiscuous and would only put you through emotional rollercoasters. 

2. Reckless Drinking

10 Habits That Could Possibly Destroy A Man

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The constant intake of alcohol in high quantities does more harm to your system than you could probably imagine.

Your biggest assets in life are your health and time. Once lost can never be recovered.

It is a common aspect for men to compete amongst themselves for who can drink more, and it's mostly common among teenagers. Excessive drinking damages your health, and without good health you become unproductive.

Some of the adverse effects of alcohol on the body are;

- Reduced Stamina

- Reduced mental performance

- Memory loss

- Liver damage

- Weakens your immune system

- Higher chances of developing cardiovascular diseases

- Sexual dysfunction (inability to get an erection or last long in bed)

- Diabetes treatment complications...etc

I remember in the past whenever I took a bottle of alcohol, the next day I'll fell like throwing up and lose about half of my stamina during training or a match (i play football very often).

I tried to stop drinking in the past but most of my friends didn't like the resolution. I was called weak, a woman, a chicken, and sometimes we'll run into serious arguments whenever I took something light or non-alcoholic.

Because from where I come from, there's a mentality that a woman shouldn't drink more than a man in a gathering. And so to prove your manhood you must drink more than she does to maintain status. Sounds dumb but that's actually a mentality some men have.

Was it hard for me to stop? Yes, it was but just at the beginning. As I got smarter and soon felt the impact alcohol had on me especially during games because I do a lot of sports, I decided to stop drinking

Whosoever judges me based on my decision, I don't give a f...k about them because I don't seek external validation. Most of these people who judge you have no dreams or aspirations, and live their life guided by the wind. Wherever it blows, they simply follow.

And today I am able to perform better with a laser-like focus in any activity I engage in, whether physical or mental. 

My only advice is not to let anyone force their perspective of life on you. Know what you want and learn how to achieve it even if it means sacrificing things that actually cause harm than good to you.

If you feel like you can't stop drinking, you can discipline yourself by knowing your limits, and not taking in more what you can handle. You don't need to prove anything to anyone.

3. Doing Drugs

10 Habits That Could Possibly Destroy A Man

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Just as alcohol, drugs have a devastating effect on your health. How many artists or famous musicians have you heard of that died of drug abuse?

These drugs might elevate your mood, but just for a short while. And drug abuse might be more damaging to your health than alcohol.

Remember that good health is your greatest asset followed by time. Once you start doing drugs or get an addiction, you damage your health which shortens your time as well as achievements.

My advice is to stay away from drugs especially when you are young because then you are more productive.

4. Lack of Exercise

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The main cause of lack of exercise is obesity, cardiovascular diseases, low stamina (even in bed), depression, and low drive.

Being healthy and fit is optimum for you to be able to live a better life. You don't need to pump yourself on steroids or artificial hormones to get and outstanding physic.

Just going to the gym at list 3 times a week for 30 minutes is enough to develop good physic. As for me during this period of lockdown, I've got dumbells which I exercise with, and I play football regularly.

Moreover, practicing more exercises makes you feel better about yourself, which boosts your confidence in your everyday life.

The more confident you are, the more willing you are to try new things, and get out of your comfort zone to pursue your goals, dreams, ambitions.

5. Keeping bad Company

Bad company sucks away your joy, happiness, and motivation in life. They don't care about you and put themselves first in everything.

How you know you are keeping a bad or toxic company is when they always try to impose their way of life on you. They don't care if you'll actually get hurt at the end and suck up the best from you.

They are never happy when they see you going ahead in life, and want to be above you. Because they enjoy feeling superior to you and bossing you around.

They always want to control you and have things go their way, rather than yours. In the end, they always play the role of the victim and never accept their mistakes while making you feel like the bad guy.

Bad company would always discourage you from pursuing your dreams, goals, and aspirations saying "It won't work". They will tell you your ideas are trash and a waste of time and money.

If you wish to advance in life, you must first get rid of bad company in your life, because it's so easy for them to influence you with their toxic mentality.


6. Low Determination

Having a low drive and determination can be harmful to your dreams and aspirations in every possible way. Not being competitive in your workplace and going after opportunities that come your way would keep you at the same spot.

It's true that in life one should seek corporation rather than competition, but at a personal level, you need to be self-competitive with the goal of ameliorating yourself as a person.

Focus on the price that keeps you awake each night for hours working on your goal and visualize yourself at the finish line celebrating and crying in joy.

You'll feel a flame and strong drive within you that wakes you up every day and night pushing you to put in more time and effort to get to the finish line.

7. Blaming others for your misfortunes

There's a Chinese proverb that goes;

"He who blames others has a long way to go on his journey. He who blames himself is halfway there. He who blames no one has arrived" - Chinese Proverb.

Basically how I understand this proverb is that blaming others means you've learned nothing from your journey and are unable to handle failures, blaming your self means you have a good sense of responsibility and wish to become better at handling them, and blaming no one means you've accepted the fact that errors/mistakes are bound to occur yet stand firm in the midst of adversity.

Notice how most unsuccessful people who are always on the same spot blame everyone for their failures except themselves.

They look at their surroundings as defaulted and think they know it all. Thinking you know it all actually makes you look stupid because you're learning nothing new and might be harboring outdated knowledge.

We live in a world where the only constant factor in the universe is change. You can either become a product of change, or a victim of change.

To grow as a person you must accept criticism not reacting in an adverse way but examining yourself and improving at the right pace.

“The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing.”― Socrates

8. Refusing to Let Go

Not letting go of the past or a previous memory/experience that led to a profound adverse effect on you could easily ruin you.

These memories keep you depressed and locked up in the past thinking and reliving the incident every day.

It might be a relationship that never ended well, a business that failed, someone you lost, or an accident you had. Regardless, not letting go means you live in the past for the rest of your life and don't progress at all.

Learn to let go of every bad memory you have, and hold on to the good ones, because they will keep on your feet each time you get swiped off by a storm.

9. Inability to control your emotions

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Your inability to control your emotions would always make you regret your decisions at the end.

Lashing out on people or in a relationship whenever they get on your bad side or becoming violent whenever you get provoked would always place you in difficult situations.

As a man, you need to be stoic and give out no emotions. No need to fight back or exchange fists when provoked. Because the best way to respond to any provocation is to do nothing, and simply walk away.

Yes, you might be the one who is right, but you don't need to prove a point to someone who shows stubbornness in leaving his/her ignorance.

“Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret.”― Ambrose Bierce

10. Procrastination

Procrastination usually comes from having a low drive and determination to do something.

Using words like I will, I shall... simply means that you'll probably never do it. Unambitious men constantly procrastinate, that's why they never get things done and remain in their comfort zone.

Split a goal/objective into smaller tasks that you can complete every day. And so you won't easily get overwhelmed by the colossal work and effort required to be put in.

I hope you enjoyed reading this piece of article and learned something from it. Please share with your friends and family if you found this article interesting and don't forget to subscribe so you don't miss out on fresh new content in the future. Thanks!

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