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Sunday, March 29, 2020

Why Communication Is So Important in A Relationship

Why Communication Is So Important in A Relationship
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There are several important aspects of a relationship one must consider, in order to maintain a healthy and long-lasting relationship. Some of them are highly regarded, while others are totally ignored. You probably think sex or money is the most important aspect of any relationship. After all who wants to engage in a relationship without sex, cuddling, romance, and financial security? 
I personally think they are all important aspects of every relationship. But what about the little things we think are not important, and yet we still continue to convince our selves that they have no major impact on our relationship.

From the title, I am pretty sure you already know what am talking about. And yes am talking about the power of communication in every relationship. One of the best things I've learned from every relationship of mine or those I came across (whether romantic or not) is that communication is the fire that keeps every longterm relationship burning. Other factors like sex or money can be referred to as wood or fuel that makes the fire burn brighter, for a limited period of time. Once exhausted or burned out, the flames quickly disappear. In the absence of communication, the flames get extinguished even more rapidly.

If you're a man in a relationship, let me ask this question, how many times do you contact your partner in a day? do you give her that security by constantly reminding her how you feel about her? Some men, don't even bother to contact their wives or girlfriends the entire day. And when they get back from work or where ever, they expect them to open their legs claiming it's their right. One crazy proverb that popped up in my head and I know anyone would understand is that a woman is like a farmland, if you expect to harvest its crops, you must start working earlier.
And so if you expect your every night to be one spent in the clouds beneath the stars, you must start by cajoling or flattering her with sweet words. And trust me immediately you get back home, she'll be dressed like a sexy Russian spy in a sexy outfit waiting to persuade the US secretary of defense to leek intelligence. I hope you get the point am trying to make here.
One thing I usually hear from some guys is that they tell you to reply to a woman's message after one hour or one day...
Why would you intentionally ignore a woman's text for long periods of time, if you're already committed to a relationship with her? I mean you two already have each other, so why not strengthen the bond you have already established, rather than put it through unnecessary trials. If a woman leaves you for whatever reason, don't think it's because you were mostly the first person to initiate conversations, or you always wanted to know about her day. Accept the reality of things and be HAPPY! breaking up might cause pain but you're not happy you both broke up, you're happy you wasted your time no more because time is the most precious asset you have in life. Once lost can never be recovered. (click here to check out our merch)

Some women equally think that men should figure out everything that is happening to them. I mean men don't have superpowers, expect you gave them one am not aware of. Men might be ignorant about how you fell in certain situations. It is your role and responsibility to tell him how you fell about the situation. Most women are fond of keeping silent, then after some weeks or months, they lash it out on him like it was just yesterday. I understand that women never forget, but piling all that anger within you would do you no good. It only eats you up from the inside and makes you less focused on your job and other activities in your life.

So no matter the problem or circumstances, as couples you owe each other to communicate your feelings, your emotions, your problems, and your challenges. Because communication is the strongest weapon you both have as a couple, to build a healthy and longlasting relationship.  
Let's not forget that true love stories never happened in one day. Let's not embrace communication in our relationship and reject silence. Because without communication there is no relationship, and silence is the number destroyer of all relationships. 

“Anything that’s human is mentionable, and anything that is mentionable can be more manageable. When we can talk about our feelings, they become less overwhelming, less upsetting, and less scary. The people we trust with that important talk can help us know that we are not alone.”― Fred Rogers

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